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for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 31

Sorry to double post, but I thought I should rephrase something.

Like with the belief from my family about school, it's not so much about getting the work done that's a big source of pressure, but more the idea that work comes first. Maybe physical health is a notch above that, but I feel like that's practically just for the sake of being able to KEEP working. Hobbies, social time, sleep, mental wellness? Everything else comes after. That's what bothers me, and I don't know how to get around it when the work is never done.

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 31

Thanks, cvdeb! Yeah, it's a pretty difficult transition. It seems all anybody talks about anymore is work. I feel like all that matters anymore is what's on my resume.

I do get a lot of pressure from my family. Almost indirectly...like I think the belief has been that you do whatever you have to for school/work, and that's all there is to it. Which, I guess makes sense. But you never really question that authority. So I feel very much under the thumb of my obligations. I've been telling myself for weeks that things will wind down if I just get this one project done, but there's always been another big deadline soon after that got me all wound up again.

I know my parents are going to be real upset with me if I don't graduate this semester, which is becoming a distinct possibility. I don't know, I feel like everyone's going to be looking down on me if I don't, from family to fellow students. Why can't I do what everybody else has been able to do?

I want to slow down, but I don't know how to, because I'm just unable to do things as fast as I'm supposed to. I've kind of been tiredly beating away at my schoolwork for a long while now, set deadlines for myself that don't seem unreasonable but I can never keep up with them...So it's kind of like, life won't slow down, and I don't know what to do because I'm constantly playing "catch up." A lot of times over this semester I've wished I was a robot so I would never sleep in, or feel depressed, or want to take a break to unwind and do something fun. Those things just set me back and dig me deeper.

So basically, it's kind of like school has had the first and last word on my life lately. And it feels like it's going to be the same with whatever job I end up with whenever I do graduate. I have my loves in life elsewhere, so this is a really upsetting thought that I think helped, as you said, kick up my current depression.

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 102

Hey K :)

Welcome. We seem to be getting a lot of college students getting ready to finish lately which is a huge transition. It might be helpful to read some of their recent posts.

Situational and genetic (or both) depression can get kicked up by big transitions. There are lots of unknowns, and perhaps familial and internal pressures. Have you always felt like you needed to rush through things to make people or yourself happy? Are you perhaps a perfectionist like a lot of us here? :)

What if you gave yourself the gift of slowing down a bit. Just a little maybe?

You are supported here no matter what speed you choose. I truly is a pleasure to meet you and I hope you keep posting.

I received some great advice once: Sometimes we need to put bigger issues on the back burner while we deal with the immediate. It's there when we are ready to pull it off of the stove and in the meantime, it's grown richer. Just don't forget to pull it off because it will spoil.

Deb

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 31

Thanks, Strength! :) I appreciate it.

The program's going all right. I'm trying to keep track of things, but I haven't really found much of a pattern yet; my depression fluctuates a lot day to day. Sometimes I'll feel okay until some things start going wrong during the day, and I kinda crumble. But, it's pretty early on. Just focusing on things more now has kind of been hard. I think it's been easier to just ignore certain problems and put them in the background than work on solving them.

I'm really eager to move into the second session, but I'm trying to take my time so things can develop how they should. Just getting into the habit of recording on the activity tracker throughout the day is a pretty new thing to adjust to, though. I plan to get to the next session on Friday or Saturday.

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 217

Hi there,

How's the program going K13? It is really nice to share with people who are not involved with your everyday life. I'm here listening if you need to talk.

Strength

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 31

Thanks for welcoming me, Samantha and Strength! The boards are pretty nice; it's good to have a chance to share some things here that are not so easy to share with people offline. And good to read about everybody else's experiences, too!

I'm working to stick with the program; hope all goes well!

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 217

Hi K13,

Welcome to the site, thank you for sharing with us. It is great to hear from a new member. I hope things go well with college and everything. Transition periods can be difficult, try your best to take it one day at a time. I would definitely suggest taking your time on the program too. The program is great, I highly recommend it. Hope to see you around here a lot!

Strength

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 2606

Hi K13,

Welcome to our support community and thanks for sharing your story with us. This is a great place to receive knowledge, support and encouragement. Be sure to reach out to the members. The members do know what you are going through and sharing experiences does help everyone. Take the time to continue working through the program and get started towards progress.

Ask questions, answer questions, provide support and receive support. We are always here for you so start reading all the helpful knowledge and let us know how we can help!

Samantha, Health Educator

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 31

Hi! I'm K13. I suffer from pretty chronic depression, and right now I'm in a bad dip, so I'm trying this website out. I'm only a few weeks away from what should be my last semester of college (if things could only go right), so I'm in a real big transition period right now, and I think that's making things worse. The first and other time I really had severe depression was during my senior year of high school and freshman year of college, so I think there might be a similar connection now. I just don't know what's going to happen to me at this point. The situation looks bleak.

I've just started the program, and am trying hard to be patient. Everything else in my life, with this whole senior year wrapping up, seems to be screaming, "GET IT DONE NOW!!!" but I suppose getting into this slowly is better than nothing or rushing, too.

I'm a little reluctant about online forums as well as overwhelmed with work so I probably won't be around too much, but maybe I'll catch some of you around on here sometimes! Thanks for reading.

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