I found a core belief for myself on Saturday.
I am from a generation of women who were taught from birth, by society, that you had to have a career outside the home. I was raised thinking that I had to go to post secondary school, find a career and do it well. It was no longer socially acceptable to be a homemaker. "You want to stay at home with your kids? You must not be smart enough to do any real work."
I assume people will look down on me if I choose to stay at home with my children. I feel as if they will think I am lazy and can't do anything. I believe, unfortunately, that I should be a supermom. I should be able to work full time, take care of my house, my children and my husband. I should be able to come home from a busy day at work, take the kids to soccer, bake cookies for a bake sale, clean the house, help the kids with their homework and then still have time and energy for my husband. Well, that's a bit unrealistic. I give props to anyone who can actually do this but experience has taught me that at least one or two things are going to slip leading that lifestyle.
So the question now becomes: Do I have what it takes to change this belief? And now that I know it's there, how exactly do I do that? Do I quit my job and take on the only job I've ever truely wanted, wife and mother? Do I have the nerve to stand up tp society and say, "You are wrong! Being a stay at home mom is the most important job in the world. Teaching children to grow up into worthwhile human beings is something more of us should be entitled to do. If mothers want to stay home, it's not because they can't do anything else. No, it's because they are choosing a career path that will help society in the long run for more than running a company. Stay at home moms should be praised!"
Funny thing is, this is actually a core belief of mine as well. Conflicting core beliefs about the same issue are causing me a lot of guilt both ways.
Rowsie
although neither is much fun... the finding can bring freedom.
