Thanks for the welcome and for your suggestions. I am playing it a little close right now as the hurt is fresh. But already it is helpful to know that there is a venue and sympathetic ears. Ours was a four-year relationship - we built a house and a small farm - he built the house taking into account what I wanted - our plan was for me to retire there. My father passed away four years ago and my mother suffers severe dementia and is in a care facility - his parents and aunt have filled that gap in my life - so I guess the hurt is on two fronts. I will welcome all words of comfort, wisdom or ???? Thanks.
I'm so sorry to hear about the break up. Please know you are not alone - we are here whenever you need us. I know that doesn't replace in person relationships but I hope it counts for something. Being lonely can be incredibly hard, humans are meant to be social. Due to this I encourage you to put yourself out there even if it is difficult right now. Try to plan pleasant activities where you can meet people at least once a month. If that seems too difficult then start small. Set small goals for yourself - we can help you set them if you like.
That's fantastic that you have already overcame depression. You have the knowledge and experience to get through this. What helped you last time? What can you start doing today that will help? One suggesting is starting to read the program.
Please post as often as you like. We're right here reading every word.
Hello all... this is my first post here. I overcame major depression a few years ago. The reason I am here now is to "prevent" depression from taking over my life again. I was in a relationship for four years with a terrific man - somewhat younger than I (but that's another story). He just ended it this week. The problem - distance and communication. He lives in the Caribbean and I am in Canada. Communication is very difficult - not because we don't want to talk - it's just physically impossible. I travelled 5 or so times per year to be together. It's not enough for him. (Please - I do understand this) He needs someone by his side and someone to talk to all the time not for a week every couple of months. Anyway, here's the hardest part for me. I have no family here in Canada except a brother in BC (I am in Ontario). He is married and moving to the Caribbean with his wife (who get this, is not only from the same country as "Guy" but was formerly married to "Guy's" cousin). Guy's family was my family - they loved me I loved them - his friends were our friends. Because of my life choices I also have no close friends here in Canada. So here I am fighting off depression - but I am so lonely. My BC brother is as supportive as he can be from far away. But here I sit crying, anxious and alone. I would welcome any words of support or whatever you feel you want to offer. For those of you are overcoming depression (and yes, you are, if you are here you are overcoming it) know that it is possible. You will overcome. Read the first part of message again. I am here because I overcame depression before - I will do all that I can to not let it rule me again. I will overcome it again - with your help. Thanks.
