Red... Of course you need to do what you know is best for yourself. I am sorry you are not finding DC helpful right now. You will be missed. Take care.
Thank you so much for checking in Laura. You have been missed.... I was afraid we'd scared you away for good. Hopefully with you and me participating regularly... others will feel welcome to join in. I do sincerely hope so because I know we aren't the only ones struggling with the depression.
Oh gosh... you have been visiting relatives. yikes. talk about guaranteed triggers! How did it go? Helpful or not so much? I always do wonder how others manage family of origin "issues". For me, sometimes good... sometimes, not so much. Kind of a crap shoot at best.
Anyways... having you check in lets me know... once again... that I AM NOT ALONE! in dealing with this stuff. That's such a powerful, powerful gift you bring to the site. Thank you Laura! Thank you.
I will and No offense taken..I got it the first time..
Sorry I guess I should of made myself clear when I mentioned what doing nothing meant to Me..I thought I was participating in a group discussion when I mentioned it, but I forgot there is really no group here anyway. Everyone is pretty much looking for individual help here..So I guess I wanted to say I am just not to the point of giving up and doing nothing quite yet or giving into the old drill or listening to the old negative cord beliefs just quiet yet. I don't want to think about doing nothing because that would be depressing, and get me more depressed..Don't really want to entertain the idea of closing all the windows and pulling all the curtains and then crawling in bed or even worse getting a bottle or some smokes or maybe some pills that make me Feel Nothing..that way I would really be Nothing..No I am not not ready for that yet..
This is not what I had in mind when I reached out on this thread..I can see that I am just not ready for This yet..Maybe later maybe not...What ever!
How are you doing? I've been away for a while, I was on a bit of a high I think due to starting smoking again, and then I was up north visiting my folks. I've been thinking about you, and feeling like I'm coming down from the high so to speak, feeling down again, not like when I tried to quit, but just my normal tired, and not interested in doing anything kind of feeling.
To your comment, it does seem a bit like a ghost town around here, and that makes it a bit tedious. Where is everyone? This is such a terrific site, and I know there has to be more than a handful of people suffering from depression.
I'll try to check back in a month or so with a little update of my own once I've had a chance get centered again..
Till then keep reading and working on the sessions that help you my friends....and don't forget to kick back and do a little nothing once in a while and see what happens..You might surprise yourself and come up with all kinds positive possibilities..
It is interesting how different we all are..What works for one person is like nectar from the Gods and for another it is like poison for the soul..In my cause, this time, Less is More which hopefully will leads me to a more peaceful and happy life. This is how I get grounded and stop going in one hundred different directions at once..This gives me a chance to think and see things more clearly without all the pressure to hurry up and do this or do that, please just make a decisions right now..This pressure, this influence from others who aren't always looking out for my best interests I find is not always in my best interest..because they have a conflict of interest..and for me you see I am really interested in what is best for me and That's It..no money to be had, no personal gain made off off someone else's needs..My health and happiness and my quality of life is My focus..
So today I gave myself permission to take control of my appointment book like a psychiatrist once advised me to due 39 years ago and I am having a great day and getting lots of things done, things that I enjoy too and things that make my life worth living..
So for me doing nothing is really not nothing, it is everything, it gives me time to think and to do things and gives me everything..
The idea of "doing nothing gets us nothing" I find for myself is a negative core belief that I can do without right now.. I am finding that this idea is just to not be true for me or healthy either...
Ah yes... less is often more. But doing nothing gets us nothing. I have to remind myself of this when I pull back and isolate myself in order to "protect" myself. Still struggling with that All or Nothing approach to life and it's travails.
A great session to return to when life is feeling overwhelming is the Relaxation session in the extra help. Just taking time each day to B R E A T H E properly can so help put things in perspective. It's so simple that it's hard to do at first. Hard to slow the thoughts and worry and fear. Hard to concentrate on breathing mindfully. But once I get restarted on it.... I find it very helpful and wonder why I ever let that slide.
Hi m~ ! Just stopped by real quick and saw your post this early am..Good to hear from you too.
Yes I have been isolating myself more lately since I starting having health issues this last year and a half and now there is talk of more surgery. All the related appointments and stuff took over my life and I had to drop out of my quilting classes and didn't have the time to eat right and exercise, but even before all that I was finding myself pulling away from social interaction a little bit. It has become increasing hard to me to be around people for long periods of time in a social setting that is. Like a sewing bee for instance. One thing that I did yesterday was take some of the control back and canceled all my medical appointments so that I could give myself a little breather from it all and rest a bit. I felt that I really needed some time to decompress and think things out before I commit to anything else in my life thats going to be life changing at the moment..The decisions that I am making now are all mine to make so it is a bit hard and I do feel alone in it at times..It does seem at times like I got myself on a merry go round that is spinning out of control, with no positive direction in mind..I do feel a little better now that I jumped of it for a bit.. Sometimes More is Less or is it the other way around Less is More..
Anyhow the plan for now and what sounds the best to me is to take a big step back and take the approach of Less is More and to proceed cautiously..I am hoping this will enable me to see through all the smoke & mirrors and the fog will clear and I will be able to see things more clearly and do what is best for me..So for now I am going to try to let my mind rest and in turn hopefully find some peace of mind in the present moment The here and now..
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By the way, I don't mean to be rude and self centered, sorry I forget answer to your question..I don't have a favorite session..I can't remember most of them now so I thought I would take it easy this time and start at the beginning and try to read a little one day a week for now..
Red..
I know I am rambling here a bit but this is my way of making sense out of the chaos.
Hello Red! Thank you for checking in. I'm sorry to hear you have had a long bout with health problems. Hard to stay positive when you don't feel well. Do you tend to isolate yourself like I do? Do have any real life support?
As for the program... it is somewhat comforting to know I'm not the only one who feels the difference here. Perhaps others will join in the discussions if we start some. Maybe the free Beta test sites have served their purpose and our days here are limited. I dunno. I am grateful for all the help, education, and information that has been so freely given for many years now. Maybe this another one of those changes we have to adjust to. It does get harder to flex emotionally and physically as we age.
You said you come to review the sessions when you are feeling down. Is there one session that is particularly helpful for you to review? Do you do the trackers and homework in addition to the reading?
Again, thanks for checking in... it is good to "see" you again.
Hopefully with you and me participating regularly... others will feel welcome to join in. I do sincerely hope so because I know we aren't the only ones struggling with the depression.
