Welcome to the forums Terry. I'm on my third week of the program and can honestly say have made some inroads. I think the biggest thing these forums can offer is regular feedback from others dealing with exactly the same feelings you've been experiencing. The best thing you did for yourself and family, is join the group. The homework needs to be done as much as you may want to skip ahead for a quick fix. Take it slow, and steady. Reflect on it over and over and do not be dismayed. This, coupled with some books I've been reading, have really made a difference. The other very helpful thing, is sharing your struggle with others. For me, as a family guy, I felt I had to be the pillar of strength that held the family in place during challenging times. That's the first misconception that one needs to get rid of. As soon as the "pillar" admits it needs some maintenance, the better. All the best on your journey. Don't be afraid to share future posts.That goes for the rest of you out there with exactly the same predicament.