How can I get my hubby off his high horse and see that he needs to prepare for his quit? I know that I can't make him quit but I want him to succeed so badly.
5 Years ago I quit and A week later he joined me. I made it for 4 years,he went 1 & 1\2. After many ups and downs I stupidly took the attitude if u can't beat him join him ( he was drinking too much as well). Soon after I was up to 25 cigs a day and drinking as well. Then my daughter announced to our church that mom spends all her time in the shed. Wake up call!!
Well as a mom I knew that I was slipping back into dangerous waters ,(for my kids as well as myself) So I resolved to quit again. hubby and I both set a date and I was ready. My husband? He pannicked and said we should at least wait til after the weekend. That told me that he wasn't ready but that didn,t deter me. He can have his shed , his smokes and his beer, I wanted my life back.
I am so happy about my decision. I changed my behaviors, started working out twice a day and at day 27 of my quit I have never felt better.
Then just yesterday,my husband decided that he was done,no more smoking. No patches, no preperation just do it. Lunchtime today,he confessed to having just 1 cigarette. How do I help him too see that his addiction is stronger than him? That it's o.k to ask for help.
Whatever he decides to do it won't affect my quit but it does affect our family. Thanks for letting me vent. This support group is great. Why do men find it sooo hard to reach out?
[B]My Milage:[/B]
[B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/4/2006
[B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 27
[B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 689
[B]Amount Saved:[/B] $303.75
[B]Life Gained:[/B]
[B]Days:[/B] 2 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 16 [B]Seconds:[/B] 14
