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Cincere congratulations on your stats. Well done. They are teenagers at 12 now ? Where does she get the money to smoke? Tough love, don't let her get away with it. As far as her cousin goes I don't think you should stop her from seeing her at your house maybe. But she doesn't have to go to the same parties. It's hard to break a friendship at that age. Well good luck with this I feel for you, it's really hard raising children in today's mixed up world. Keep on quitting one day at a time :)Marie [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 6/13/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 96 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 1,450 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $384 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 12 [B]Hrs:[/B] 17 [B]Mins:[/B] 58 [B]Seconds:[/B] 47
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I just HAVE to respond...I have stories of my own children that would curl a bald man's hair! I have 5 children-24, 21, 19, 16 and 10. I have seen the older ones through drug abuse, alcoholism, mental illness, smoking, etc... YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING!!! I promise. I am a firm believer in tough love. I also think we need to try to set a good example (not passing judgement, I often fail in this arena). Your daughter may hate you for your restrictions from certain people and activities now, but later in life will thank you for trying. Understand that you, as a previous smoker, introduced her to this habit. Just as my parents did me, and I have done my children. Educate her on the evils. I have NEVER met a smoker who was glad they started. My oldest three smoke as adults and I recently found out the 16 year old prefers his nicotine in the form of dip (yuck). I cannot do anything about the adults..they are adults. The 16 year old knows he is not allowed, what the consequences are if caught...but I imagine he will still sneak around (just as I did). The best thing you can do for her is to let her see you quit. Share your struggles and thoughts with her along the way. Hopefully she will 'see the light' before she is dependent on them! Good luck and God bless. My second suggestion would be to lock her up until she's 18!!! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/8/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 9 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 467 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $72 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 23 [B]Mins:[/B] 8 [B]Seconds:[/B] 23
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Josie brought up a really good point that I am ashamed to have overlooked in my earlier post---Congratulations for not smoking throughout this not-very-pleasant discovery. Family issues are always SUCH a trigger for me (the kids and their antics!) Reward yourself for not smoking! Good job! [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/8/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 9 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 481 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $72 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 0 [B]Hrs:[/B] 23 [B]Mins:[/B] 51 [B]Seconds:[/B] 27
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It's okay to post personal stuff here. I think Josie meant that with IM you can talk more one on one and say things you cannot on the forums....if it's a no-no, I am in violation repeatedly! Things will work out. The drinking, smoking and drugs with our youth is a world-wide problem. The only thing we can do is lead by example, educate them and pray a whole lot. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/8/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 10 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 519 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $80 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 39 [B]Seconds:[/B] 40
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Well I am beginning my third week and as before, depression is beginning to rear its ugly head. The past two weeks have been surprisingly easy and I thought that I must truly be ready to be quit. Well... this past weekend has been one from hell. I am still smoke free thankfully and will continue my quest to someday be truly free from all addictions. (food... I want it.) Of all the reasons to not smoke...the fact that I recently fond out that my 12 year old daughter is smoking has to top the list. Why is it that teenagers think they are invincable? It sickens me to know that As a smoker I have played a role in her decision to light up and it may take years for her to reach the point of not wanting to smoke. I did remain fairly calm when I confronted her. She,s not going to admit anything but I have grounded her and taken away her allowance. I told her that I may not be able to stop her from smoking but I intend to make it very difficult for her to get away with it. I then proceeded to have a beer which in turn became a few beers (way to show her how to deal with difficult situations right?) Anyway, I got thru it without smoking and today is a new day . Any tips on how to handle teenagers? I've raised one and only have five more to go..gulp!! To add to this, I just found out that my neice (who is also 12) is now allowed to go to parties where much older kids drink,smoke,etc. I have had to tell my daughter (who has been best friends with this girl for 6 yrs. that she is not allowed to hang out with her. ( I do not agree or support the manner in which she is being raised. Am I being too strict? I wish that there was an instruction book for raising kids. Thankful for a place to vent... Cindy [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 9/3/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 14 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 429 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $176.68 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 6 [B]Mins:[/B] 17 [B]Seconds:[/B] 47
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Thankyou for all your reponses. This world is indeed a scary place. We live in a small town in Newfoundland and it seems that nearly all the youth drink and smoke. Heavier drugs are also a problem. Gonnadoit. Thanks...did you say you have handcuffs? lol Katy. You are so right about the message we are sending when we drink/smoke. This is another change that I must incorporate with my quit. I do not cope very well with difficult situations and this is why all crisis make me want to smoke and drink. As if these crutches solve anything. Marie. I call my daughter a teen because she very much acts like one. She is fully developed and very mature (in some ways). As far as still seeing her cousin at our house, I think that I will have too. She is family and perhaps needs my guidance now more then ever. Josie. Thanks for the pat on the back. You are right that I should hook up on IM. I apoligize for using this site to discuss personal affairs. That said, how do I go about it?
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OH..and PS... You're being an awesome example! Congrats on completing heck week! PSS... After meeting my daughters new boyfriend, locking her up till she's 32 sounds better...but I think there are laws against that :p [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/2/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 593 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 11,869 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2117.01 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 62 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 6 [B]Seconds:[/B] 27

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cincere, A friend of mine once said "My daughter has started smoking. How can I tell her she shouldn't when I smoke myself". My response to her was "How can you NOT tell her?!?". At 12, you're still teaching, you're still the parent, and you're in control. Make yourself and the consequences very clear. Let her know how serious you are. "Do the crime..pay the time"... Real life. Talk with all your children daily about how you're struggling to free yourself from you own addiction. How horrible it is. Don't shield them from the realities of it. You have only a small window to teach these type lessons before they become indepedent. They're going to make mistakes so practice scenerios with them so when life dishes it out so they know they have options. I used to tell my kids that if they ever felt pressured into smoking (or doing drugs..or drinking..etc)... they had my permission to say "Been there..done that...I quit", even though they never had. This allowed them to maintain their "kewlness". Those teen years are about their friends and "what mom or dad will do if they find out". Use both to your (and her) advantage. Do what works for your children. They're all unique with different learning styles...but because they saw us as smokers, we have to work a little harder. Hang tough :) [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/2/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 593 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 11,869 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $2117.01 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 62 [B]Hrs:[/B] 20 [B]Mins:[/B] 6 [B]Seconds:[/B] 3

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you are doing right in trying to stop her from smoking....but also try to talk to her.....perhaps she could read on here how this horrid addiction will suck you in for life...and then suck the life OUT of you. and nix on the beer. I see nothing wrong with having a beer or a drink, but I think even our casual drinking sends the wrong message to a young teen. I drank when my kids were teens...(I didn't get drunk, but I would have a drink or two) I have since decided it might have been wrong. I am not drinking in front of my grandkids...in fact I seldom drink nowdays.....it's just another think I have decided is good to avoid? Try to get closer to your daughter. Plan things with her....plan things that she CAN do that you know are safe from smoking, drinking and drugs....I realize it's hard, but it will be SO worth the effort in the long run. good luck! Katy [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 1/4/2002 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 1717 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 68,705 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $9786.9 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 224 [B]Hrs:[/B] 1 [B]Mins:[/B] 1 [B]Seconds:[/B] 28

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Cindy, You have not smoked through all of this! Firstly reward yourself and take some you time. You need to regroup and face situations with a positive attitude. You may want to connect with others on the IM Messenger for more detailed explanation on child rearing :) Looks like you have done a great job and your daughter will thank you for it later :) Keep Strong, Josie _____________________ The SSC Support Team.

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