No, that's not stupid at all. But, you do need to allow yourself the chance of being hurt. That's really the only way you will ever experience the joy of a relationship. Yes, it may end. But, it may not. So, enjoy the time you have, while you have it. Don't think about the ending - think about right now. I think that's a problem we all have. We all are so keyed up about what might happen, that we forget to just be in the moment and let it be what it is. I know it's -WAY- hard, but try to not monitor the relationship and just go with the flow. It will take some time and lots of practice, but I think you will see that it is worth it. That's another problem with us panickers. We all are so afraid of what might be, that we spend too much time monitoring the situation we fear - heart rate, dizziness, relationships, blood pressure, etc. I know that's how I am anyway..... :confuse: I'm still working on this, too. Oiy! Hang in there!!

omg yes. it helps heaps! for some reason, i have to be in control of relationships. i get anxious if things arent perfect, or seem perfect to other people. i guess this is more a portrayal of my lack of self esteem. i also worry all the time when im in a relationship, that something is going to ruin it,... so i end it before it ends it for me. Stupid huh!

Hey ShoneZ! I think what you need to ask yourself is how he made you feel as a person. Not what everyone else thinks, but what you think. People always have opinions about relationships because they only see part of it. Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors but you and him. Other people's opinions are completely irrelevant. This is about you and how you live your life - not how they want you to live your life. It's not up to them. It's up to you. You cannot control how other people will react to your decisions - it is your decision - period. If they have a problem with that, it is their problem - not yours. So long as this person is not abusive (physically, mentally, sexually or emotionally). One other thing you should remember that took me a lifetime to learn - do not judge a relationship or situation on what you expect it to be, judge it for what it is. Hope that helps!

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Hello everyone, i am in desperate need of advice. I have always been an anxious person, but have never acknowledged it. I suffered my first panic attack whilst in a relationship a few weeks ago... we had only been seeing each other a couple of weeks, i didnt know it was a panic attack until now. I was really happy with the relationship, then I found out he had lied to me about a couple of things, which obviously "set-off" my anxiety within. After the lies "surfaced", I still hadnt had any more panic attacks. Alot of people who are close to me advised me to give him the flick, and criticised him (to me), and then I started doubting the whole thing, wondering if it was worth persuing when things had got off to such a poor start. I also couldnt bare the thought of being with someone everyone else didnt approve of. When he came to see me for the last time, everything was fine, until it was time for him to go. I had this rush feeling that i couldnt be with him anymore. So i ended the relationship the next day. Within a week i had visited my doctor, who said i was depressed, id had uncontrollable thoughts about him, so one night, i just drove all the way (2.5 hours) to see him, i dont remember the trip, i walked up and down the beach, then tried to drive back home. For the next 3 days, i suffered panic attacks one after the other, felt like my soul had been taken away, and felt out of control. My GP thinks that deep down, i didnt want the relationship to end, but i was panicky and anxious about other people's opinions etc. We had only been seeing each other for 8 weeks. What i am trying to find out is, Is it possible that people who suffer from Depression, Anxiety and/or Panic, have such lack of self-worth, they are unable to have a decent relationship? all i can think about is him, all the fun times we had, and why i had the "breakdown". Im so worried that i will never be happy, because i shouldnt have had such high expectancies of a relationship that had only just started. Part of me wants to try again, but the other part is wondering what made me "tick" in the first place. I was so happy. AAAAAAAARGH any opinions?!