I don't have confidence in myself either. I think I was always a shy person ever since I was little but when I was 'normal' I knew well to cover that insecurity up. I feel like anxiety happened to me because I was lying to myself all this time that I knew what was 'right'. But now I don't know... and I don't know if I ever will, but I'm starting to realize that 100% confidence is not so great either... in the sense that we can be too confident to forget to leave some space for us to grow. But of course, everyday, I wish to get a little more of it so that I can do the things I'd like to do.
Building up your confidence is an important part of becoming well again. With exposure work you can build this confidence. How do you think your life would be different if you were more confident?
I agree with Ladybird. If we can learn to stop comparing ourselves with others the guilt we feel becomes much less. We are each unique, and may have problems with some things but we also have gifts and talents that we can bring to the table. Those things are the things that make us who we are and the other stuff we can use to learn more about ourselves even if it is torture at times. There is a lot of creativity in people. We just need to tap into what is ours. Blessings
I also find that I lack self confidence and that I have a tendency to second guess a lot things I do. It seems that the more I think about something I want to do the more anxiety sets in and than I am not able to do anything. I am working on this by trying to leave the house more. I guess I need to make sure I keep challenging those anxious and negative thoughts. I find it can be very tiring at times.
I know where your coming from this is the area I'm working on at the moment I have suffered quite bad from panick attacks/agorophobia for as long as I can remember and when you see other people doing things that you find so difficult to do it shreds your confidence and self esteem because it can be something like going to the shops which they can do without difficulty but we find hard. I'm learning to stop comparing myself to others and reminding myself that maybe they wouldn't do it so easily if they had the fear that we do. I know its easier said than done but if I can catch even one of my put downs to myself and congratulate myself for even trying thats one less and to learn to have patience with myself because it takes time and everyone is different
