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for 13 år siden 0 +0 / -0 286

Way to go Spartan!!! I'm super impressed you were able to turn around later the same day after such a hard moment and have such success. That should help prove to yourself that you can take control of your anxiety and make progress towards being the person you want to be again.

Hang in there,

Teebs

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Hi Spartan,

I also want to say - way to go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! that's so great.

love the affirmations. bet they work for alot of things with a little twist. self talk is what makes great athletes and business people. if it works for them, it works for us.

Great going. Hope you had a great celebration. I'll bet your hubbie was very proud of you. Great way to greet him being all happy,

for 13 år siden 0 +0 / -0 6252

Spartan,

Congratulations, I hoped I was right and it was a control problem and that it would work for you.

Now that you know why it should be easier. Time to celebrate the success.

Here for you, and cheering.

Davit.

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Hi Spartan,

Excellent work! It sounds like you really accomplished a goal you had set for yourself! Be sure to journal about it and remember what techniques helped you through it. This will come in handy in the future! Thank you for sharing your success with us, be very proud of your success! As Davit's words helped you with this experience, continuing to share yours will also help others.

Members, how have you progressed in your exposure and simulation homework?

Samantha, Health Educator

for 13 år siden 0 +0 / -0 49

I just wanted to say...I DID IT!!! I did the drive!!! I went to pick up my husband this afternoon, and although I was frightened at the beginning I just remembered what Davit had said. So for the entire 30 minute drive I was saying, out loud, "I am in control. I am driving because it's my own choice. I am doing a good job. I have nothing to be afraid of". SO I did that aaaaaaand I made it! By the time I arrived at my hubby's work I was giggling and happy and I even felt good enough to go through Tim Horton's drive through and get coffee for us. So I just wanted to say thanks to Davit for giving me that pointer to try that self-talk. And thanks to everyone for all your support!!

Thanks again,

Spartan

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YES!!!!!!

Spartan! Amazing that you are doing this! I love that you are not backing down from this challenge! This is a huge deal so be so proud of yourself! Tell us how it goes!

I almost cheered out loud when I read this!

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

for 13 år siden 0 +0 / -0 49

Thanks for all your input, it's been helpful. Dawuad made me laugh, "please don't forget to pick up your husband".I liked that, brought a smile to my face so that was really nice. I have decided that I am going to my Dr appointment today. I know it may be bad to do this...but I went to Google Maps and figured out the quickest and most direct way and back to my Dr office, so that made me smile. I know I shouldn't know that all the time, but after this morning's episode I feel I can let this go. I'm also leaving a bit earlier than usual to get my husband so that I beat the beginning of rush hour. As long as I can get where I'm going as directly as possible I know I'll be ok. And if something happens like gridlock...then well, I'll try as best as I can to be super calm and just chill out.

Spartan

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Spartan.

I am so sorry that happened to you. You know what happened. You forgot it was your decision to drive. You forgot it was your decision to use that street. You let control go back to your fear.

Instead of telling yourself you are close to home when you are not, try for some control. Admit you are not doing well but it was still your decision. See with agoraphobia it starts with any loss of control of the situation. EG. to have the car, you can't just have it you have to drive hubby to work. All subconscious. so you have this slight loss of control of the situation, even though you wanted to drive him to work, the subconscious thought that you are going to have to go back again is aiming you in the direction of a negative core belief (such as I can't do this) (I don't know you well enough to know what core beliefs you have). Once they are opened they have to run their course, (panic attack). So now you have the core belief and the residual from the panic attack to deal with.

Bury the core belief by telling yourself over and over that what you have to do is your decision, you are the one with the control.

Bury the thought on the panic attack by accepting that it happened and you survived again and will if you have another.

Problems with driving, riding subways, elevators, and flying are all because you have no say in what is happening around you. And this is true, but to put control back on your side you have to tell yourself it was your decision to do it and that you can do it even if it is uncomfortable. Same with building the positive belief to bury the negative one. It is not enough to say I did it. (although yelling "I won" really helps) you want reinforcement. You want. something like. It was my decision and I knew I could do it and I know I can do it again.

When you got home instead of thinking on how bad it was, you should have been thinking how well you did, and yelling I won I did it. Always aiming for the positive in the situation.

I know how hard this is but you can take back control of your life. You can.

Here for you,

Davit.

Ps. This is just the core of it. You need distractions for when you are stuck in traffic as a coping skill, making faces in the mirror works for me.

for 13 år siden 0 +0 / -0 11226

Hi Spartan,

Wow, good for you for getting through it! It sounds like it was a very situation. I love how dawuad puts a positive spin on this situation. It may seem hard to look at this in a positive light now but I encourage you to try. Even trying to reframe some of your language may help. For instance, you mention that it was hell, and even makes you angry when thinking about facing this. How else would you be able to look at this situation now? If you were able to get through this day despite the panic attack(s) how would that make you feel?

If you do decide to go today always remember to put your safety first. If you feel and attack is too much pull over and deep breath, it will pass.

We are here to support you through this! You are not alone.

Ashley, Health Educator

Here to help :)

for 13 år siden 0 +0 / -0 23

Spartan,

I think most of us have gone through situations like yours. You are not alone when a panic attack leaves you feeling exhausted and feeling hopeless. The panic attack in the car might have been new but the panic attack in itself is not new. Here is a positive thought for you: This might have been the worst attack you might have had - but look you made it home safe and sound. You may not like the way you feel right now but what you just went through was difficult and terrible but you made it! I would suggest that you keep reading the program. According to your description you kind of set yourself up when you had started "feeling weird". You felt that this feeling would lead to a panic attack and so you became afraid of the panic attack and then eventually had one. The 10 questions in the program should help you. I would look at the question "What is the worst thing that could happen?" - Well for you, you were already experiencing the worst thing that could happen - the panic attack. That is it! The best thing you can do right now is keep on going and keep on fighting! Go back and do your chores, go to the doctor, and please don't forget to pick up your husband

Good luck to you and don't lose faith - we are here for you.

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