Ashley, I am sick and tired of people going "you can't take criticism, your parents are great."
No, my family Ashley is incredibly two-faced. They act super sweet in public, but in private can often, very often be down right nasty. Here are a few examples, and no this isn't me dwelling on the bad it is like this always:
1. I was told to play more often to de-stress. My mother finds it funny to constantly grab at me while playing billiards causing me more anxiety.
2. We will go out to other families' homes where my parents will purposely embarrass me and/or say something completely false to piss me off. Then the people say "oh, you mustn't get so mad. You have lovely parents." Back in the car I will ask them why did they lie, why did they bring up a subject they knew I would not like? They say "because we can, we're the elders" and laugh about it.
3. Our former neighbours, whom I've forgiven and am good friends with again, asked for my help with their daughter's severe issues. Then they turned around and became nasty to me, so I stopped helping, but the nastiness continued. I told my mother what was going on, showing her harassing emails. My parents blamed me for everything that happened only because they lost their best friends. I was not responsible for their daughter's addiction problem. I called to apologize for my half (which was a very tiny half). I got somewhat of an apology. I'm over it now. We are all friends again, but I've learned even if someone asks for help, don't help them. Don't jump to conclusions on this 1 because I am leaving tons of details out.
4. When in private I hear things like "you're ridiculous" "you're 2 yrs old" "you're a pain".
5. I am constantly interrupted so you know it's that it's being purposely interrupted when I'm trying to contribute to a conversation they started.
6. I'm called chubby, etc.
7. I have never been defended. Having someone choke me and then invite them over is not defending. My mum will say I was right about something but then continue with the person as if they did nothing wrong. I'm not asking her to solve those relationships though.
8. Constantly going on about the future, I can fix now, I can't fix later.
9. I will try to have a conversation and my mother will talk long with someone else and with me after 2 words go "get to the point. I don't care. Good bye" like a snob.
10. My words are constantly twisted around, this is my by other family too. For example, I might say, "you have a stain. Oh no! Let me get some cold water for you." and then another person will say really loud in front of the table "why did you have to point out the stain! What a horrible person you are!"
11. Having my anxiety made fun of. Being screamed at in the middle of an anxiety attack.
Now come and tell me what you thought before. This is the half of it. I grew up around a lot of alcoholism and major partying and I was the one to raise some of my younger cousins in some capacity and I never once regret being in their lives.
Lots more this is what I got for now.
