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for 18 år siden 0 +0 / -0 1521

duffis, You never cease to amaze me with your posts. Well done! Thank you for such commitment and loyalty. Take Care, Melanie _____________________ The SSC Support Team

for 18 år siden 0 +0 / -0 100

I have found myself exploding from time to time during this quit and saying things that i wish i could take back. But once its been said you cant do anything about it, so i will do some deep breaths before i open my big gob in future. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/28/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 11 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 351 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] �26.4 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 1 [B]Hrs:[/B] 4 [B]Mins:[/B] 56 [B]Seconds:[/B] 3

for 18 år siden 0 +0 / -0 1450

Thank you Lady :) AND thank you Duffis :) [color=blue]~[font=Arial]all the best[/font][/color] [img]http://img291.imageshack.us/img291/6922/n3us.gif[/img][size=3][color=blue]2[/color][/size][img]http://img133.imageshack.us/img133/2344/k6ob.gif[/img] [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 8/20/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 204 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 4,508 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $1020 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 19 [B]Hrs:[/B] 10 [B]Mins:[/B] 48 [B]Seconds:[/B] 27

for 18 år siden 0 +0 / -0 5195

Bump for those that may have missed the latest Duffism...it moved so quickly to the second page. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 254 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,098 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $889 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 22 [B]Hrs:[/B] 11 [B]Mins:[/B] 11 [B]Seconds:[/B] 12

for 18 år siden 0 +0 / -0 5195

I believe the point of this Duffism is for us to focus on why we behave the way we do in certain situations. Part of the quit process is changing the way we think and function and I believe this to be a perfectly healthy side affect of quitting. To analyze our thought process is a form of growing and maturing. As addicts we thought of one way to deal with all emotions, that one way was smoking. We smoked when we were happy, sad, angry, lonely, depressed, in agony or any other emotion you can think of. Living a smoke free life, forces us to deal with all these emotions in a new way. Being able to reason with the why�s behind the wrong�s is how we learn to change unhealthy behavior. Replacing our addiction with other bad habits and unhealthy attitudes could eventually send us running back to the addiction because that is where our comfort zones lie. While we are going through this life changing, soul searching process, we may as well develop as many emotionally positive reactions as we can. Life is too short to spend in anger and hurting others is never an option. This is just my opinion. Take what you want and leave the rest. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 253 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,077 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $885.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 22 [B]Hrs:[/B] 8 [B]Mins:[/B] 53 [B]Seconds:[/B] 27

for 18 år siden 0 +0 / -0 5195

Thank you Duffis. I will keep reading. [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 7/1/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 253 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 5,074 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $885.5 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 22 [B]Hrs:[/B] 8 [B]Mins:[/B] 40 [B]Seconds:[/B] 56

for 18 år siden 0 +0 / -0 2830

Duffis, I think this is a very good post. I think that we can all sometimes let our anger get the best of us, and I'm so glad to see this post that references this topic. I do, however, want to respectfully disagree with you on one thing and give my opinions on the subject and possibly start a discussion about it. [quote] revisit the situation again, exaggerating the details of what happened by indulging in outlandish "what if" fantasies. [/quote] I feel that oftentimes, going over the situation over and over again and "indulging in outlandish "what if" fantasies" can be dangerous and can cause me personally (and I assume probably others) to get angry about the situation all over again. I'm not saying that it should be ignored, but I feel that doing the "what if" game is futile because you can't change the events and it could possibly just upset you all over again, making things even worse. Just my opinion. I'd love to hear responses from others about this, and of course you. Overall, I think this is a fabulous post and I'm very glad you posted it. Crave the Quit! Pam [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 10/28/2005 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 134 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 3,370 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $442.2 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 9 [B]Hrs:[/B] 18 [B]Mins:[/B] 48 [B]Seconds:[/B] 0

for 18 år siden 0 +0 / -0 210

I've wondered why the mood swings and just chalked it up to not smoking. This might help me understand my anger. Pete [B]My Milage:[/B] [B]My Quit Date: [/B] 2/13/2006 [B]Smoke-Free Days:[/B] 26 [B]Cigarettes Not Smoked:[/B] 800 [B]Amount Saved:[/B] $91 [B]Life Gained:[/B] [B]Days:[/B] 3 [B]Hrs:[/B] 11 [B]Mins:[/B] 30 [B]Seconds:[/B] 40

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for 18 år siden 0 +0 / -0 832

Over the past year I have noticed that along with quitting comes some degree of anger for many of us. Anger can be very dangerous to your health and family as well as your friendships if not dealt with properly. Each one of us has experienced situations where we've found ourselves lashing out at someone without meaning to. We later berate ourselves for losing control and feel guilty for treating the other person badly. And while it is human nature that our emotions and moods will get the better of us from time to time, we can learn to navigate our feelings and negotiate difficult situations without losing our center. Often, when we lash out, it is because we are having a difficult time containing the emotions that are coming up inside of us. We may be feeling overwhelmed, afraid, frustrated, stressed out, or angry. Having these feelings boiling up inside of us can be very uncomfortable, and it is natural to want to release them. But when we release our feelings from our body by directing them outward and toward someone else, they inevitably impact the "innocent bystander" to whom we are directing this energy. They not only get the brunt of our anger, frustration, or stress, but also they can actually experience this energy as a physical force hitting their bodies. When you find yourself in a situation where you are about to lash out at the person in front of you, try to center yourself by breathing slowly and deeply. A few slow inhales and exhales can help dissipate the intensity of your feelings before they escape you. Later, when you find yourself in a more reflective state, sit down for a moment; recall the feelings in your body just before and during your outburst; note where you feel sensations coming up in your body; and ask yourself if they are connected to any core issue or experience from your life. If nothing comes to mind, then revisit the situation again, exaggerating the details of what happened by indulging in outlandish "what if" fantasies. Exaggerating events after the fact can help expose the unconscious subtext behind your heated response. Understanding the motivation behind your reactions can help you avoid lashing out again when a similar situation comes up. In learning to navigate around your emotions, you are giving yourself t

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for 18 år siden 0 +0 / -0 832

BFS - Pam. Thank you for your post and I certainly welcome any comments or even opposing views on any subject. I will only offer this rebuttal to your post. Anger or for that matter any emotion will be felt and dealt with based on the level of maturity possessed by that individual at that particular time. I certainly do not advocate rehashing or going over and over and over again and again like you depicted. It was ment as a means to stimulate thinking about why you lost it in the first place; not to start a pitty party. It is good that you are thinking and have the ability to disagree. It would be good to have an open discussion on anger and how to deal with it. :8o: Duffis

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$285,537.50

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