I am so sorry you feel alone right now..I think this is something I can relate to because I have been and felt abandoned many times before in my life. I had so many feeling at that time in my life..Anger, sadness, fear and loneliness etc. etc. The one thing that helped me was writing down what I felt and what I wanted to say that I didn't get to say to this person in my life while they were alive..When I was in grief group they had us write a letter to the person we lost, it was a goodbye letter where we could say the things we wanted to say..ask the questions we wanted to ask and such..Let out all our emotions and get some closure..than when we were done and ready we would get rid of the letter. Some threw there letters in the trash some choose to burn their letters. By doing this they were able say what the wanted to say, get past some of their pain and it helped them to move on..Kind of a purging of sorts..I don't see why this wouldn't work with the living as well..Sometimes we just can't talk to these people face to face..I know I can't..
I think Ashley idea of journaling in a good idea. I have been thinking about starting a journal on my laptop for a long time now..Something for my eyes only that I can delete when I am finished with it..Kind of like a purging..What do you think about this idea? Do you think it would help you?
New and improved isn't always better...They say be careful what you wish for....Life is not always greener on the other side. I can attest to that. Of course this is just my opinion and my own personal observation after being there for over the a month now. I much prefer the format here and so must others because there is much more activity in the forums here than there is over there..It is pretty much a ghost town over there...The two site my be related but they are not the same at all just like Davit said.
Our neighbors brought us a Christmas card and some home made pastries this year. Which was so sweet and restored my faith in humanity..
My son and daughter in law and grandkids stopped by to visit on Thanksgiving Day..Which was a special treat we had not expected..This meant so very much to us..
Now for the flip side..
We are buying gifts to put in the toys for tots box to help the needy again this year..We look forward to doing this every year. It brings us so much joy and it also helps give needy children and there families a nice Christmas..
I have been inspired by Davit's baking and am beginning to get in the holiday spirit....
Thank you for your holiday cheer Davit!!
Today we are going to trim the tree and I am going to bake some chocolate chip and peanut butter cookies..I thought it would be nice to give some to our neighbors in return for there generosity..It's starting to look and feel like Christmas here on the site and at home too..
I would love to see my family for Christmas..We all live in different parts of the country so this is not possible..I enjoy picking them each out a special card for Christmas with a gift tucked inside..then of to the post office I go..I so appreciate the postal service and all that they do this time of year..Now that job would put me in a panic..
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p.s. oh ya! Santa I sure would like a new robe this year..
Sorry your having a hard time of it right now..The best advice I can give you is to start reading the program today..Start with session 1 and after you finish that session you will have access to all the other sessions and can read them in any order you like. Session 3 has a 10 question list that you may be interested in looking at..It helps you challenge your anxious thoughts.
This list and exercise has helped me immensely...
Good Luck with tomarrows exposure. Sounds like you have a good plan with getting a lift and all..
Is it possible that the two of you could take some time out for each other and say celebrate Christmas together on Christmas eve..instead of Christmas day..Maybe a nice dinner together at home that evening and such..Just pick a day and make it your special Christmas together. If this doesn't work than maybe the two of you can go as a couple together to each others family functions..and let them know you will be spending time with both families this year..A couple hours with each of the families or maybe one on Christmas eve and one on Christmas day..This are just some ideas to consider while the two of you try to figure this out..
This year I am doing something a little different..I am cooking a beef roast for Christmas dinner..Not sure if I will cook on Christmas eve or Christmas day yet..Just going with the flow and relaxing this year..We have a tree and lights again this year thanks to my partner..I make cookies yesterday while he trimmed the tree..than put some little decorations here and there around the house..Whats so unusual is that this year while we were getting out the decorations we came across things in the box that we had forgotten we had..It was all brand new to us and kind of magical..I guess we are making our own traditions this year...
