Awhile ago, I found this site and was very excited about having a place to talk about what I was going through. After I had posted a message about my husband and his struggles with depression, I got a response that said they didn't appreciate me referring to depressed people as "them". It was really defeating for me so I quit the site. I am back with a new log on so I am going to try again. My husband was diagnosed with major depression six years agao, was on meds, stopped them, and now he has started the processes over again. He has left the family and says that he is very angry. He finally said that he would start his meds again but the last time I saw him I really don't think that either he is truthfully taking them or they aren't working. It is so hard to try and make things the way they were, and I think that I am wearing out. Thanks for reading this post. I appreciate, really I do, having a place to talk.
Thanks for your post. I just don't know how to help him when he says he is very angry and mostly at himself. I just wish that I knew if he was taking his meds. He has a very high stress job and another part time job that is just as demanding. It takes all of his energy, and I don't think there is much left for dealing with the depression or dealing with family issues. I think that I am slowly loosing the battle. I am not angry with him at all. I dealt with this 6 years ago when he had a major breakdown, but we are back to the same spot again. I think that it has to be very hard and frightening for him. Thanks for any ideas that you could give me. I hope you are doing well.
Yes, that is how he feels. He feels like someone has done something, but he can't figure it out. I have expressed over and over to him that we love and want to help him. It feels like he doesn't want that, and he acts out with anxiety and anger towards us. I guess time will tell, but one wears out and that really scares me. I have gotten a lot of good advise and things to think about on this site. Thanks so much. If you can think of anything else I could do, please let me know.
My husband got an apartment so he could just get his life together. It is frustrating for me because I told him if I had a problem I would go to him and if he had a problem I should be the one to help him. He just doesn't see it that way. He expresses anger and anxiety. He told me that he was taking meds but honestly, I don't think he is or it isn't working. The person that loves a person dealing with this has to express what they are going through and how to help their loved one. Thanks for the post. I really do appreciate it. I just want my life back. The saddest part about this is I thought we were doing so much better but this time it is much worse.
Thanks, you've helped a lot. I have decided to take the postition to just enjoy what I have right now. It has taken me months to get to this point. We have a wonderful son, 26, who has taken over the role of the man in the house. He doesn't live in the same town but he always has been there for both his father and me.The saddest part is his father doesn't give back to him. His dad has treated us both the same. I just can't imagine being in that state of mind. But, I will check back with you soon. You have given me good things to think about. :)
My husband has said that he has started taking medication for major depression. He told me he was taking Remeron, and if he started when he said he had, it has been about six weeks. He said that it was the same medication that he was on before, and it worked. But, he doesn't seem to be any different at all. Not like he was the first time when he dealt with his first major despression. He is still very angry and cannot seem to put his family in the right perspective.
This absolutely makes sense. It seems like what you have posted is like he is talking to me. I have one thing that I know is right. I have never gotten angry at him or gave a time line. He just seems to be able to not reach out to us. I am talking about a little thing like a phone call. He has a very high stress job-probably to high stress. It seems like all of his energy goes to that and there is little left for us. When I tell him that I will do anything like counseling or anything like that he looks at me like it is just more for him to worry about. I have gotten stronger and stronger as this goes on and what really worries me is that I will get to the point that I will have a hard time dealing with it anymore. That really scares me because we are at a time in our lives when we should just be enjoying it. Thanks for you post. If you have anything else that you think I could use to bridge this please let me know. In the night it is the hardest. I don't know why but it is. :)
What is really strange is that I did. I went and made an appointment, and it ended up being nonproductive. Everything that this counselor said to me I had said to myself. They said that they could put me on some meds to help me deal with it, but I listened to people that were or had gone through this. The information that I got on how to feel better worked for me. I got up off my couch, exercised, and just started taking care of myself. It worked for me because I didn't need meds. It wouldn't have worked if I needed something. I have a family member who calls me everyday. I can talk to her about my sadness and hurt, and she just listens.It is amazing what one listener can do for you. It is like these posts; it is somewhere to go and know that people like you understand what is happening to my family. Thanks.
