Rosie, something to consider. My wife and I have similar problems some times. I am a "male fixer", I feel like it is my job to fix things, especially for the people I care for. Sometimes my wife just needs to vent to me and I find it frustartating because I want to fix the things she brings up. She on the other hand just needs someone to talk to. I have to work very hard at not getting upset , especially when she brings up the same problems again and again, I have to actually ask her"Is this something you wany me to fix or do you just need to talk about it?". We also have talked about the fact that our styles of geting things done is very different. I am very impatient and confrontational(give me an answer, yes or no, so I can move on). She on the other hand is slower and more diplomatic( she wants to keep all options open). Don't know if this applies or helps, but your post made me think of it. I know my wife and I have been taling alot more when we get into disagreements and have found out alot of the times the root cause of it, is our different ways of looking at things. Take care, good luck and you are in my prayers.
