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for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 102

You guys made me smile. I was a psych major too (U.C. Santa Cruz). I really relate so much to both of you and what you're going through. Noori, what's your major??

I'm too pooped to write tonight, but will check on you both tomorrow. I'm glad you found each other.

Deb

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 102

Your Dreams

Travel, paint, have spa days, give to others-- create lasting programs that have meaning (like this site), read more. Travel would be at the top though.

Deb

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 102

April Fools!

Those were hilarious Ashley! I haven't had much time to read or post lately, but that was refreshing.

deb

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 102

Hello

It's normal to have set-backs. It's something I'm struggling with too. One day is good, the next is really hard.

I want to share something with you both, and am hoping you don't mind that I'm posting just to the "hello" post because I think it might be helpful to you both. Maybe anyway.

My last year of undergrad school I was working really hard. I had just been accepted into a pPhD program. I had a dream that I was standing on the fourth story roof of the psychology department and I was terrified. I knew I was going to fall. I couldn't figure out how to get down.

Anyway, I figured out that the dream signified my fears of success, and responsibilities. Although I had always been successful, and very responsible, I felt locked into that for the rest of my life. Terrifying!

Does this resonate with either of you?????

Off to bed with me :) Thinking of you both though.

Deborah

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 102

CM, oh, my gosh!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi Goofy,

I'm so happy to hear that you may be getting closer to a solution. I know you've been dealing with this for a long time and it sounds awful. My thoughts are with you.

Deb

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 102

forward and back

I haven't posted for awhile. I've been working really hard at putting back the pieces of my life. I'm posting because hopefully it will help others and myself.

I was doing really well. Posting here, seeing my therapist, on antidepressants which I dreaded going on and put off until I couldn't think of anything else. I got through the house catching on fire, my dad developing congestive heart failure, still dealing with my son's mystery illness, giving up my other job, accepting the new responsibilities of the new position. Got through it. I functioned. I woke up every morning, and got through.

This week though, everything calmed down. And I can't stop crying. I guess I see this as progress because I couldn't cry before. I couldn't call much feeling up at all before. I'm having trouble waking up again, and getting into the shower. But I'm also waking up at 4am everyday and hoping to go back to sleep..... which I do about 1 1/2 hours later which gives me about another hour of sleep.

So. Finally hit a deep place with the therapist this week that seemed to open up the dam. It's a place that I really really thought I'd already done my work in, but apparently there's more to do. Fun.

Love you guys. Sorry if this is a little disjointed. I'm tired but really needed to check in and connect with all of you.

deb

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 102

forward and back

I think therapy can take us to difficult places, but it needs to be done. I didn't realize I had stored up so much sadness.....

Game plan for today: force myself into the shower, go to the beach with my 6 year-old and adopted dog, and go out for ice cream after that. Not one of these things I want to do. I'm kind of in "staring at things" mode. But I'm going to make myself do it anyway. It's a beautiful day and it might help. Worth a try anyway.

Thanks for writing Samantha

Deb

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 102

Your top 3 - Good Deeds

I can't name my top 3. Everyday I make sure that's how I live I guess. I don't mind if people are driving faster and cut in, I let people go in front of me in the grocery line if they have only a couple of things, I do stop and talk to homeless people and buy them food if they need it...... I guess I was born that way. I can't do life any other way. Because I've suffered so much, I can't stand to see suffering. I've been given so much by others, that I really believe in the pay it forward thing. There is no other way for me. My challenge is to make sure I'm taking care of myself too. And I am.

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 102

Hi there

Hey K :)

Welcome. We seem to be getting a lot of college students getting ready to finish lately which is a huge transition. It might be helpful to read some of their recent posts.

Situational and genetic (or both) depression can get kicked up by big transitions. There are lots of unknowns, and perhaps familial and internal pressures. Have you always felt like you needed to rush through things to make people or yourself happy? Are you perhaps a perfectionist like a lot of us here? :)

What if you gave yourself the gift of slowing down a bit. Just a little maybe?

You are supported here no matter what speed you choose. I truly is a pleasure to meet you and I hope you keep posting.

I received some great advice once: Sometimes we need to put bigger issues on the back burner while we deal with the immediate. It's there when we are ready to pull it off of the stove and in the meantime, it's grown richer. Just don't forget to pull it off because it will spoil.

Deb

for 14 år siden 0 +0 / -0 102

wake up call

hey noori,

Yes! I thought I was back too, but have had signs that I'm not but have been ignoring (as in still dealing with depression).

One good thing about my mouth is that even though I'm tired, I'm measured with diplomacy. But completely honest. Sometimes I'm worried about how that comes across, but it's given me a great job! So don't worry too much. Be yourself, and then some. Understand when you're down, that you might want to be quieter and listen more. But use your down time as information gathering time and speak when you feel you have something to offer.

And you have a lot to offer. Believe in yourself, and take care of yourself.

deb

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