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Depression is anger turned inside out...that is one of the most amazing things I have ever heard. How true that does ring. That really puts a lot of different things into perspective. Also, I have found that the Psalms are really soothing and uplifting whenever I am feeling low.
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Carry: How have you been doing? I haven't heard from you in a while so I'm hoping you're having a good. You deserve it. My youngest just moved out and I'm thinking about making his room a guest room. My therapist wants me to get out more but I'm unable to jump that hurdle yet. The Doc upped my Lexapro but I haven't started taking the larger dose yet. He seems to think my writing is a little obsessive and after reading through some of my passages on this site I think he may have a point.
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Carry: You are right, my family does love me. They just don't understand that therapy can take a while. I told my therapist that everybody is getting on my nerves but that it didn't make sense. She said that the anger I've been directing at myself is trying to find another outlet. She also said that I had more control than I thought I had because I haven't directed my anger at anyone else. She also said that my journal passages are so long that I ought to consider writing a book. I can barely communicate now and she wants me to write a story. How have you been doing? I'm glad your panic attacks aren't so frequent anymore. Have you put some more thought into attending therapy? There are some church oriented group therapies around. I know that because I was waiting at a red light & saw a marquee in front of a Korean church (I don't know what denomination)saying that the Young Adults meeting was Thursday night. I pulled in the yard & spoke to a young Korean woman. I told her I was trying to learn about the Korean culture and I asked her about the meeting. She said the meeting was for young Korean adults who were born in Korea and trying to live in the U.S. She told me that for some Koreans it feels like living on another planet. That's how she felt when she first came here. I have to say that I really admired her courage. She seemed to be happy & at home in her neighborhood. She didn't know a word of English when she came here. I don't know if I would acclimate as well as she did if I moved to a country where I didn't speak the language. Knowing you has opened my eyes Carry. There is a world of kind, giving people out there. There is hope for us.
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Hi Barbara, I've been pretty busy myself. I think I'm got about 4-5 hours of sleep the past 3 days. My throat is starting to feel bit swollen now. But other then that.. things are going "well". I just wish I'd stop getting this stupid panic attacks from time to time. There's relatively small so it's getting to be more annoying then anything else. Barbara... believing that your family truely loves you, I think it's more of a fear thing, or maybe even denial. Like... it would be really hard for me to acknowlegde that someone I love is in alot of pain. It's just something I don't want to see and I don't quite know what to do. -_-; Sorry, I'm not even sure if I'm making any sense. I just think your family's not sure what to do. But you know they love you and care about your well being. Although it might feel like abandonment sometimes, I hope you really know in your heart that you'll never be abandoned by your family. I know I'm not a therapist or anything, but I'm always here to listen. ^_^ And I won't charge you. hahaha~ Try talking to God.. I know it could feel like you're just talking to yourself. And not getting any response back doesn't help as much. But I personally found it helpfull. Sometimes, I'm just so amazed at how powerfull those times can be. Helps me to reflect and learn more about myself and what's around me. I hope things start getting even more better for you soon.
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Carry/Kitn/Jasmin: I'm sorry I haven't been on line with you guys for so long. Right now things are pretty tough. It seems my family thinks that since I've been seeing a therapist for three months, I should be better by now. In some respects I am better. I am learning to tell the difference btw negative and unrealistic thoughts. I'm no always accurate but I'm working on it. My family does not want to talk to me about the way I'm feelilng. I have to listen to and support them, but I have a therapist who is paid to listen to me. I am angry and I feel abandoned. Sometimes I just want to give up.
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Carry: Your optimism is so refreshing. Some days it is too hard for me to just get dressed. I thank God that I can work from my home. I too have been very sleepy and I don't know why. Usually I'm up by 6 a.m. but the past few days I have been sleeping til 7 - 7:30. It's not a good idea to sleep late in the winter. We need as much light as we can get. Spending the bulk of our waking hours in the dark is sometimes detrimental to our mental health. I understand what my MD means about winning the war, but it is very hard to change what feels natural. I want to know what confidence feels like. I want to know what ambition feels like. I need to be creative and I know I need to get out of this house. It is so hard to make myself do anything. Everyone else says: "Just do it"! Well real life isn't a Nike commercial. People don't understand that the energy we use in not doing anything is the same energy we used to protect ourselves. I am at the place where I don't know what thoughts to have to replace the negative ones. I am a adult woman who is asking herself what to think. Filling the spaces where the negative thoughts once were is difficult. My automatic response to this inability is more negative thoughts. Do you ever get tired of living in your head? I swear sometimes I get fed up with this. I don't want sympathy, I want answers. The line that the answers lie within me drives me up the wall. First I'm told that my thoughts are unrealistic then I'm told that the truth lies within me. Isn't that bass ackwards? I don't know which thoughts to trust. Letting go is hard. Suppose underneath that tough exterior lies a whimpy b****? How do I trust that behind this depression is a person worthy of love, respect and friendship?
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Hi Barbara, As usuall I slept through most of the weekend. Seems like no matter how much I sleep, it's just never enough. I think you're right about my depression having something to do with it, but the cold weather is definitely pushing that further. I've also been ditching gym alot lately. And I don't think that's helping. Anyway, it sounds like you've made more improvements. I'm always so happy when I hear that you're doing well. In a way, you doing well encourages me to be better myself. I think your therapist is right, you did win the war. The fact that you're with us is the proof. We still have a long way to go, but we're getting closer to our destination as the days go by. I'm proud of both of us. It's getting REALLY cold over here. I'm sure it's colder where you're at. Keep warm!
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Carry: How was your weekend? My was very quiet thankfully. It was very nice change not to have to do something. Having nearly a foot of snow helped. My therpist told me I have to tell myself that "I won the war". She said that my mind is still convinced I have to keep fighting to protect myself. I tried it a couple of times and it sounded weird. It did distract me from my negative thoughts. She told me that once I recover I am going to realize that most of negative thoughts are going to be replaced with common sense. I have to go now.
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Carry: I think you extreme sleepiness is due in part to depression. I agree part of it might be the cold. No one wants to get out of the warm sheets. I know I told you I was brought up in a very strict Roman Catholic home. My father's views of woman were demeaning and frightening. He and my mother were inflexable to the extreme. It was their way or the punishment. Growing up I had no hope of making things better. My sisters still say that if I has just "Shut UP" things wouldn't have gotten so bad. I tried to fight back.I think you have your way of fighting the establishment as well. Maybe it is time to reconsider your method of communicating. Is there any way you and your mom can have a heart ot heart? Or is tradition too inbedded? Have your sisters gone through anything similar? Your pain and confusion are genuine and I don't want you to give up. My therapy is very difficult. I have to relearn new ways of thinking. My therapist said that the abuse was so prolonged that my super-ego (my childs mind) took over where my parents left off. I have to learn to see myself through my therapist eyes because my opinion of myself is unrealistic. I was able to hold on to what I call a neutral mood for almost four days. That's a record for me. The pain is back now and I have to listen to the negativity again.
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Hi Barbara, How have you been feeling? I've been so tired lately. I was 30 min late to work today. I've been having the hardest time waking up in the morning lately. I'd like to blame it on the cold weather. :p From what we've been through together, I think it's safe to say that what we say to each other is never meant to lead each other in the wrong direction. As you have said about how I've helped you through some dark times, I'd like to say that you have done the same for me. ^_^ If I pressed enough, I think there might be a way to change my parents views on certain things. But I think it's more of whether I want to take that risk. Although at times I feel miserable dealing with our differences, it's something everyone else goes through as well. I know my parents are doing what they "think" is best for me. I want to think of it this way from now on. I will be a parent one day. And what I learn now will help me become a better parent. If I didn't go through alot of what I went through and will go through in the future, I don't think I'd be able to learn from my experiences. Like... When the time comes, I'll know that I'd have to let my kids go and let them live their own lives. haha... Does anything I've said make any sense? I want to believe that everything that's going on is just another way of God teaching me and training me for my future. The bible says to give God all my troubles. I'm still learning to do so. But the few times I've actually done that, things seem much easier. But I have to say.. It's so hard to let go. Anyway, how's your therapy going? And.. we haven't heard from Kitn in a while. I hope she's doing ok. It's getting REALLY cold out. Stay warm!~

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